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Ask Amy: Is older boyfriend’s offer to move in rent-free too good to be true? https://www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2024/03/21/ask-amy-move-in-no-bills/

Ask Amy: Is older boyfriend’s offer to move in rent-free too good to be true?
By Amy Dickinson
March 21, 2024 at 12:00 a.m. ET
Dear Amy: I recently met a nice older man online. After a few emails and phone calls, “Rob” and I went on several dates. Despite the difference in our ages (I’m 30, and he’s closer to 60), we have many common interests and enjoy spending time together.
Romantically, he is quite shy. So far, just hand holding on walks and a good-night kiss on the cheek. Conversation the other night turned to the subject of money. I mentioned how the lease to my barely affordable apartment would expire soon. He then offered to let me live with him — free! Wow!
He explained that since he has to pay the utilities, insurance and property tax anyway, my presence would not increase his expenses. Then he suggested I should use the savings to pay down my student loans and credit card debt. I asked him how I could ever repay his generosity. He responded by saying, “you could repay me by being the best possible mother to our future children.” I’m not sure whether he was joking or serious!
Should I accept his offer? It would be great to finally pay off my debts. However, my friends and family will no doubt label me a gold digger. Plus, I’m not quite ready for marriage and children. Is this offer too good to be true?